Sexual Abuse and Sexual Harassment are Sinful Acts

Sexual Abuse and Harassment

Sexual abuse is a serious matter. It tugs at our hearts and grieves us that there are men that abuse women mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. Ladies, it is so stupid that there are men that tell you to “smile”. The creepy old guys that think it is okay to stare at you below the neck when they clearly see you notice that they’re doing it…they just keep staring anyway. The guys that keep hitting on you after you have let them know you’re not interested. Whistling at you. You’re afraid to walk alone at night. Men slow down their cars as you are walking in town…then either hit on you or speed away.
There are people that say it was your fault you were sexually abused because you dressed immodestly. People that say you shouldn’t have tempted the man by the way you dressed. There are pastors who claim the name of Christ that take advantage of women and that don’t take allegations of abuse seriously. It can be difficult for someone to open up to a pastor about their abuse experience but I can only imagine how I would feel if I did that and the pastor didn’t take me seriously. Churches are supposed to be places where you can trust your pastor, not where your pastor makes a move on you or ignores your sincere and truthful claims of abuse.
Some men think it’s fine to hit their wives because after all women should submit to their husbands, right? Some Christian men emotionally abuse their wives. They call you fat. They manipulate you. You are afraid when they come home. You’re afraid for your kids too. They don’t think women have a voice in the home. Submit right? I am complementarian but I am not for cruel authoritarian dictatorships. God calls husbands to LOVE their wives.
In the majority of cases men abuse women. However there are women that abuse men. Men that abuse boys. Women that abuse boys. Women that let their sleazy boyfriends take advantage of girls. Grandfathers that take advantage of their grandkids. Sick. Sex abuse happens in every culture. As an American, I tend to only view the world through the lens of my experience of living in America. However in every country there are people who are sexually abused. As Christians (especially as Christian men) we need to take a stand and call men everywhere to treat women with respect and charity. We need to proclaim the love of Christ to this broken world. The fact that sex trafficking is a reality immensely hurts our hearts. Every Christian should clearly condemn sexual sins of every kind but especially sex abuse. Some say we should just listen to these stories from victims. I believe that we are not really helping anyone if we don’t share the gospel or share the encouragement and hope we have in Christ. We should listen to their stories, but we need to point them to Christ. Abuse victims need the gospel. Abusers need the gospel too. Everyone needs the gospel.
Maybe you have been abused by someone in the church…someone that you were supposed to trust. Someone who claimed to love God but chose to follow his lusts and he sexually abused you or raped you. I believe that is very very wrong and sinful. These people are not representing what Christians should be like. Some people who claim the name of Christ may be charlatans who use His name to take advantage of people. Jesus does not take advantage of people. Jesus did not abuse you.
False allegations of sex abuse, sexual harassment, or physical abuse are completely sinful too and should be condemned. I know someone who had consensual sex with a girl when he was 18 and she was 14 (this was like 5 years ago). He regretted it and has repented of it but she came out accusing him of sexual assault. It was reported to police and he could be sent to jail if found guilty. The local news outlet reported on it and their account of what happened made it almost undeniable that this man was a sex abuser. Their report said he sexually assaulted her in an abandoned cabin where they met for tutoring. I don’t think it could sound any worse than that and the picture they used of him made him look very creepy. In fact, I even believed this account at first.
I certainly can understand that the majority of cases of sex abuse are men abusing women and most of the time the women are telling the truth. But this person is a clear example that the accusations are not always truthful.  This was a case where she initiated and now regrets it. It doesn’t make this person’s choice right but it should certainly give me a reason to not believe all accusations of abuse are true. Had this girl used #metoo #church too hash tag people would probably believe her. I am very sure that they would side with her before they would side with the man.  The abuse of women is taken very seriously and I would strongly infer that most people would side with a woman every time in the case of a woman claiming a man sexually abused or raped her.
The only source of hope and comfort in this world is found in Jesus Christ. The Lamb of God who came to earth and died for our sins in our place.  May God give us strength to forgive those who have hurt us, just as Christ forgave us for our sins.

Privilege

Privilege according to the Cambridge dictionary is defined as a special advantage or authority possessed by a particular person or group. There is nothing wrong with being aware of privileges that different people or groups have that others do not possess. I have more privileges by being born and raised in America than I would had I been born and raised in North Korea. If you are the boss of a company, you will have more privileges than someone who works as a regular employee.
If we go by this simple defintion, when we talk about privileges we are making distinctions about the different advantages that different people or groups have in different societies and cultures. Every group or person in a discussion about privilege has advantages that the other group does not have. The problem starts when you look at those privileges through a socialist/Marxist lens. You turn the discussion into us versus them. One group has power and the other is powerless. “Men have more privileges than women”, therefore women have more disadvantages than men in life and men have all the power. Something needs to be done so that men lose that power and women attain and have power.
God made me a man. He made me to be a white man who would be born in America.  I know there are a lot of things that I will never have to worry about because of who I am and where I live.  But I didn’t choose this body and I only know what it is like to be a white man. Just because I am a white man doesn’t make it right to discount my opinions or say that what I go through isn’t as important or as serious as what women go through with sexual harassment. When you start comparing sins and who has more privilege I believe you are speaking unbiblically.
All sins that are committed against us hurt us and are very serious and important to each of us individually. To someone being bullied at school, that is a big deal. Someone that has experienced sexual abuse or rape…HUGE deal to them. Racially motivated violence and people that are treated differently because of their skin color…that is a big deal to those who have to experience that reality. Infidelity…it’s big deal to the person who has to go through that. Persecution for claiming the name of Christ…it’s serious and important but we are to expect persecution and suffering for being Christ followers. Remember that from an earthly perspective, the most unfair act ever committed was the crucifixion of Christ.
Christ did not talk about privilege. This idea that different groups have special privileges and that it is up to us as humans to fix the problems is unbiblical and divisive. Christ preached a kingdom of unity. We are all guilty before God for our sins and he is not a respecter of persons. He doesn’t choose us based on what we do or because we deserved anything. He chose us because He loved us. In fact, the biggest privilege might honestly be those of us who have access to God’s Word. You want to talk about privilege, think about how we (in the U.S. or the West) can access the Bible on our phones but there are people who don’t have a Bible in their own language. Or think about the freedom we have in America to gather together in worship when people in other countries can be killed or put in prison for simply owning a Bible.

We who claim the name of Christ are to be united as the Body of Christ. The Body is made up of people of different races, ethnicities, and nationalities. The Body is made of men and women. The Body is made of both young and old, wealthy and poor. The Body is made of husbands, wives, singles, widows, widowers, sons, daughters, and orphans. The socialist ideology has atheism as it’s foundation. We as Christians have the Word of God. We have a personal and all-powerful, all-knowing God who chose to reveal himself to us and bring us into a relationship with Him. It is certainly important to speak out against injustice and to realize there are some things that happen in societies and cultures that are wicked. However we know that we live in a fallen world. All sin stems from loving pleasure more than God and loving ourselves more than loving our neighbors. There will always be abusers, murderers, idolaters, racists, and violence. Our primary aim as Christians is to preach Christ crucified to every person. If we want to see the world changed we need to preach the gospel.

Calvinism

I am a 5 point calvinist (that just sounds negative…because it has this negative stigma attached to it) and I want to address some misrepresentations that were made of calvinism. I don’t worship John Calvin. I just believe that his works accurately explain the truths that the Bible has always contained…this was just the first time these truths were put together in a systematic way. Some people think we are obsessed with sin and we always talk about God’s wrath. One person said, “the 5 solas permit people to be jerks. God is only going to save those he elects so to hell with the rest anyway”. Don’t believe everything you read on the internet or hear someone say. We should all be discerning and compare what people say about God to His Word. Here are the articles from the Bible Fellowship Church Articles of Faith on Human responsibility and election:

 

Article 10 – Human Ability and Responsibility     

10-1 In his original creation man was endowed with the ability to will and do good or evil and was accountable for his willing and doing.1 But through the fall of Adam man lost his ability, apart from God’s grace,2 to will and to do those things necessary for a right relationship with God;3 however, he is still accountable to God for obedience to all of His commands.4 Man has not lost his ability to make decisions,5 but left to himself, he acts only in accordance with his fallen, sinful nature.6
10-2 Only by God’s infinite grace can man will or do anything necessary to his salvation. 7By that grace, God saves those men whom He causes to will and to do good;8 however, He does this without nullifying man’s ability to act responsibly. 91 And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die” (Gen.2:16,17).
2 As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature objects of wrath (Eph.2:1-3).
3 There is no one who understands, no one who seeks God (Rom.3:11). Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God (Rom.8:8).
4 God “will give to each person according to what he has done.” To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life. But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger. There will be trouble and distress for every human being who does evil: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile; but glory, honor and peace for everyone who does good: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile (Rom.2:6-10). In the past God overlooked such ignorance, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent (Acts 17:30).
5 Now what I am commanding you today is not too difficult for you or beyond your reach. This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live (Deu.30:11,19).
6 As it is written: “There is no one righteous, not even one; All have turned away, they have together become worthless; there is no one who does good, not even one” (Rom.3:10,12). Can the Ethiopian change his skin or the leopard its spots? Neither can you do good who are accustomed to doing evil (Jer.13:23). (See also footnote 2).
7 It does not, therefore, depend on man’s desire or effort, but on God’s mercy (Rom.9:16).
He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created (James 1:18). Yet to all who received Him, to those who believed in His name, He gave the right to become children of God –  children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God (John 1:12-13).
9 Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed–not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence–continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose (Phil.2:12,13).

Article 11 – Election     

11-1 Election is a free act of the sovereign God in which from eternity,1 for reasons known only to Himself,2 and apart from any foreseen faith and/or goodness found in man,3 He graciously chose from among the fallen mankind a people unto salvation, that they might be conformed to Christ’s image.4 Those so chosen He redeemed by His Son5and seals by His Spirit.61 For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will (Eph.1:4,11).
2 “All things have been committed to me by my Father. No one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him” (Mat.11:27).
3 Who has saved us and called us to a holy life – not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time (2Tim.1:9). For those whom He foreknew He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, in order that He might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those whom He predestined He also called, and those whom He called He also justified, and those whom He justified He also glorified (Rom.8:29-30).
4 Until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ (Eph.4:13).
5 But we ought always to thank God for you, brothers loved by the Lord, because from the beginning God chose you to be saved through the sanctifying work of the Spirit and through belief in the truth (2 Thes.2:13).
6 And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit (Eph.1:13).
If you want to know what a calvinist actually believes rather than the misrepresentations that go around please visit this site:
Some people might be inclined to think: “This privileged white Christian male has no idea what he is talking about. He has never been abused, he doesn’t know what it’s like to be a woman and experience sexual harassment. He is not an abuse victim so he should just shut up. He probably would say he wants a woman to touch him anyway.” It seems that for me to write a blog post about sexual abuse with the hope that an abuse victim would find it and find comfort in Christ like I am doing here is something that I shouldn’t be doing according to some people. My aim is to speak the truth in love. The truth is only found in God’s Word.
As a calvinist, I believe it is important to share the bad news before you get to the good news. In regards to the use of #metoo, how do you listen to non christian women (or anyone) who have been abused that come out for the first time but also share the gospel with them if the gospel is that we are all sinners and guilty before God including abusers and even abused victims. I am not sure what the best way to do that is. But the me too hashtag to me, does not give true help unless it leads to gospel conversations. You can listen to an abuse victim for years and never give them the gospel and they will die in their sins. This is what the Bible teaches so these aren’t just my words.
14 “Just as Moses lifted up the snake in the wilderness, so the Son of Man must be lifted up, 15 so that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life. 16 For God loved the world in this way: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. 18 Anyone who believes in him is not condemned, but anyone who does not believe is already condemned, because he has not believed in the name of the one and only Son of God. 19 This is the judgment: The light has come into the world, and people loved darkness rather than the light because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone who does evil hates the light and avoids it, so that his deeds may not be exposed. 21 But anyone who lives by the truth comes to the light, so that his works may be shown to be accomplished by God.” John 3:14-21

18 For God’s wrath is revealed from heaven against all godlessness and unrighteousness of people who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth, 19 since what can be known about God is evident among them,because God has shown it to them. 20 For his invisible attributes, that is, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen since the creation of the world, being understood through what he has made. As a result, people are without excuse. 21 For though they knew God, they did not glorify him as God or show gratitude. Instead, their thinking became worthless, and their senseless hearts were darkened. 22 Claiming to be wise, they became fools 23 and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man, birds, four-footed animals, and reptiles.

24 Therefore God delivered them over in the desires of their hearts to sexual impurity, so that their bodies were degraded among themselves. 25 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served what has been created instead of the Creator, who is praised forever.Amen.

26 For this reason God delivered them over to disgraceful passions. Their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27 The men in the same way also left natural relations with women and were inflamed in their lust for one another. Men committed shameless acts with men and received in their own persons the appropriate penalty of their error.

28 And because they did not think it worthwhile to acknowledge God, God delivered them over to a corrupt mind so that they do what is not right. 29 They are filled with all unrighteousness, evil, greed, and wickedness. They are full of envy, murder, quarrels, deceit, and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, arrogant, proud, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, 31 senseless, untrustworthy, unloving,and unmerciful. 32 Although they know God’s just sentence—that those who practice such things deserve to die—they not only do them, but even applaud others who practice them. Romans 1:18-32

Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be deceived: No sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, or males who have sex with males, 10 no thieves,greedy people, drunkards, verbally abusive people, or swindlers will inherit God’s kingdom. 11 And some of you used to be like this. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

If only you would tear the heavens open
and come down,
so that mountains would quake at your presence—
just as fire kindles brushwood,
and fire boils water—
to make your name known to your enemies,
so that nations will tremble at your presence!
When you did awesome works
that we did not expect,
you who came down,
and the mountains quaked at your presence.
From ancient times no one has heard,
no one has listened to,
no eye has seen any God except you
who acts on behalf of the one who waits for him.
You welcome the one who joyfully does what is right;
they remember you in your ways.
But we have sinned, and you were angry.
How can we be saved if we remain in our sins?[a]
All of us have become like something unclean,
and all our righteous acts are like a polluted[b] garment;
all of us wither like a leaf,
and our iniquities carry us away like the wind.
No one calls on your name,
striving to take hold of you.
For you have hidden your face from us
and made us melt because of[c][d] our iniquity.
Yet Lord, you are our Father;
we are the clay, and you are our potter;
we all are the work of your hands.
Lord, do not be terribly angry
or remember our iniquity forever.
Please look—all of us are your people!
10 Your holy cities have become a wilderness;
Zion has become a wilderness,
Jerusalem a desolation.
11 Our holy and beautiful[e] temple,
where our fathers praised you,
has been burned down,
and all that was dear to us lies in ruins.
12 Lord, after all this, will you restrain yourself?
Will you keep silent and afflict us severely? Isaiah 64

Who has believed what we have heard?
And to whom has the arm of the Lord been revealed?
He grew up before him like a young plant
and like a root out of dry ground.
He didn’t have an impressive form
or majesty that we should look at him,
no appearance that we should desire him.
He was despised and rejected by men,
a man of suffering who knew what sickness was.
He was like someone people turned away from;
he was despised, and we didn’t value him.

Yet he himself bore our sicknesses,
and he carried our pains;
but we in turn regarded him stricken,
struck down by God, and afflicted.
But he was pierced because of our rebellion,
crushed because of our iniquities;
punishment for our peace was on him,
and we are healed by his wounds.
We all went astray like sheep;
we all have turned to our own way;
and the Lord has punished him
for the iniquity of us all.

He was oppressed and afflicted,
yet he did not open his mouth.
Like a lamb led to the slaughter
and like a sheep silent before her shearers,
he did not open his mouth.
He was taken away because of oppression and judgment;
and who considered his fate?
For he was cut off from the land of the living;
he was struck because of my people’s rebellion.
He was assigned a grave with the wicked,
but he was with a rich man at his death,
because he had done no violence
and had not spoken deceitfully.

10 Yet the Lord was pleased to crush him severely.[e]
When[f] you make him a guilt offering,
he will see his seed, he will prolong his days,
and by his hand, the Lord’s pleasure will be accomplished.
11 After his anguish,
he will see light and be satisfied.
By his knowledge,
my righteous servant will justify many,
and he will carry their iniquities.
12 Therefore I will give him the many as a portion,
and he will receive the mighty as spoil,
because he willingly submitted to death,
and was counted among the rebels;
yet he bore the sin of many
and interceded for the rebels. Isaiah 53

People claim that calvinists are obsessed with the wrath of God. There are a lot of Christians that don’t like to talk about the wrath of God. Yet the wrath of God can actually be a source of comfort out there for Christians who have been abused. God is love but He is also just and wrathful. If you leave out God’s wrath I believe your gospel is not as effective or consistent. The comfort of God’s wrath for abused Christians according to 2 Thessalonians 1 is that if someone has sexually abused you and they do not repent and trust in Christ, they will one day be judged. They might be guilty and be found innocent in a trial, but Jesus himself will judge them and bring them to justice. He will also judge those who make false accusations  that lead to an innocent person going to prison. God will judge the sexually immoral and liars.
We ought to thank God always for you, brothers and sisters, and rightly so, since your faith is flourishing and the love each one of you has for one another is increasing. Therefore, we ourselves boast about you among God’s churches—about your perseverance and faith in all the persecutions and afflictions that you are enduring. It is clear evidence of God’s righteous judgment that you will be counted worthy of God’s kingdom, for which you also are suffering, since it is just for God to repay with affliction those who afflict you and to give relief to you who are afflicted, along with us. This will take place at the revelation of the Lord Jesus from heaven with his powerful angels, when he takes vengeance with flaming fire on those who don’t know God and on those who don’t obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus. They will pay the penalty of eternal destruction from the Lord’s presence and from his glorious strength 10 on that day when he comes to be glorified by his saints and to be marveled at by all those who have believed, because our testimony among you was believed. 11 In view of this, we always pray for you that our God will make you worthy of his calling, and by his power fulfill your every desire to do good[b] and your work produced by faith,12 so that the name of our Lord Jesus will be glorified by you, and you by him, according to the grace of our God and the Lord Jesus Christ.
1 Thessalonians 1:3-12
The immediate context of this passage is in reference to Christians that had been suffering persecution. However verse 8 says that the Jesus will “take vengeance with flaming fire on those who don’t know God and on those who don’t obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus” This means that everyone who has ever sinned against us and does not repent and trust Christ before their death will receive justice in the last days by Jesus himself.
Now this does not mean that since Jesus will judge them we should just do nothing as Christians. We should strongly condemn sexual abuse and harassment but we have a duty to share the gospel with every person. The gospel is what will change people’s hearts. An abuser can repent and trust in Christ through the power of the gospel.
As hard as it sounds, Christians who have been abused should eventually come to a place where they have forgiven their abuser and have peace in Christ. Christ forgives our sins so we are to forgive those who have sinned against us.
Yes Jesus loved people, he served them. He dined with sinners and was accused of being a glutton and a drunkard. He cared for women and loved children. He loved widows and orphans. But he came to die for our sins and to redeem us. He preached a gospel of repentance and a life of obedience to Him. He did not come to just meet their or our temporary needs. The sick people he healed eventually died. Lazarus was raised from the dead…he still died eventually. Jesus is the Son of God who eternally existed and came to the earth and took on flesh. He actively (“Christ’s full obedience to all the prescriptions of the divine law…[making] available a perfect righteousness before the law that is imputed or reckoned to those who put their trust in him.”) and passively (“[Christ’s] willing obedience in bearing all the sanctions imposed by that law against his people because of their transgression…[being] the ground of God’s justification of sinners (Rom. 5:9), by which divine act they are pardoned…”) obeyed God the Father and atoned for our sins on the cross. He was resurrected from the dead and we are justified and redeemed through Christ. Through the hearing and preaching of the Word of God, the holy Spirit draws us to God and opens our eyes to His truth:
 44 No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him, and I will raise him up on the last day.” John 6:44

18 For the word of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but it is the power of God to us who are being saved. 19 For it is written,

I will destroy the wisdom of the wise,
and I will set aside the intelligence of the intelligent.

20 Where is the one who is wise? Where is the teacher of the law?[c]Where is the debater of this age? Hasn’t God made the world’s wisdom foolish? 21 For since, in God’s wisdom, the world did not know God through wisdom, God was pleased to save those who believe through the foolishness of what is preached. 22 For the Jews ask for signs and the Greeks seek wisdom, 23 but we preach Christ crucified, a stumbling block to the Jews and foolishness to the Gentiles.[d] 24 Yet to those who are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ is the power of God and the wisdom of God, 25 because God’s foolishness is wiser than human wisdom, and God’s weakness is stronger than human strength.

1 Corinthians 1:18-25

We do, however, speak a wisdom among the mature, but not a wisdom of this age, or of the rulers of this age, who are coming to nothing. On the contrary, we speak God’s hidden wisdom in a mystery, a wisdom God predestined before the ages for our glory. None of the rulers of this age knew this wisdom, because if they had known it, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory. But as it is written,

What no eye has seen, no ear has heard,
and no human heart has conceived—
God has prepared these things for those who love him.[c]

10 Now God has revealed these things to us by the Spirit, since the Spirit searches everything, even the depths of God. 11 For who knows a person’s thoughts[d] except his spirit within him? In the same way, no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. 12 Now we have not received the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who comes from God, so that we may understand what has been freely given to us by God. 13 We also speak these things, not in words taught by human wisdom, but in those taught by the Spirit, explaining spiritual things to spiritual people.[e] 14 But the person without the Spirit[f] does not receive what comes from God’s Spirit, because it is foolishness to him; he is not able to understand it since it is evaluated[g] spiritually. 15 The spiritual person, however, can evaluate[h] everything, and yet he himself cannot be evaluated by anyone. 16 For

who has known the Lord’s mind,
that he may instruct him?[i]

But we have the mind of Christ.

1 Corinthians 2: 6-16

Now if the ministry that brought death, chiseled in letters on stones, came with glory, so that the Israelites were not able to gaze steadily at Moses’s face because of its glory, which was set aside, how will the ministry of the Spirit not be more glorious? For if the ministry that brought condemnation had glory, the ministry that brings righteousness overflows with even more glory. 10 In fact, what had been glorious is not glorious now by comparison because of the glory that surpasses it. 11 For if what was set aside was glorious, what endures will be even more glorious.

12 Since, then, we have such a hope, we act with great boldness. 13 We are not like Moses, who used to put a veil over his face to prevent the Israelites from gazing steadily until the end[d] of the glory of what was being set aside, 14 but their minds were hardened. For to this day, at the reading of the old covenant, the same veil remains; it is not lifted, because it is set aside only in Christ. 15 Yet still today, whenever Moses is read, a veil lies over their hearts, 16 but whenever a person turns to the Lord, the veil is removed. 17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. 18 We all, with unveiled faces, are looking as in a mirror at[e] the glory of the Lord and are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory; this is from the Lord who is the Spirit.[f]

Therefore, since we have this ministry because we were shown mercy,we do not give up. Instead, we have renounced secret and shameful things, not acting deceitfully or distorting the word of God, but commending ourselves before God to everyone’s conscience by an open display of the truth. But if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing. In their case, the god of this age has blinded the minds of the unbelievers to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ,[a] who is the image of God. For we are not proclaiming ourselves but Jesus Christ as Lord, and ourselves as your servants for Jesus’s sake. For God who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of God’s glory in the face of Jesus Christ.

2 Corinthians 3:7-17, 4:1-6

 

I fight these injustices by calling them out and by pointing people to Christ. If you only create awareness but you don’t provide the solution, you really aren’t helping stop behaviors like this. We have to know why this behavior happens and we have to know where the solution is found. This behavior happens because men follow their own sinful desires. The solution is found in Jesus Christ.

 

Galatians 2:20

“I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.

Ephesians 5:2

and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.

Remind them to submit to rulers and authorities, to obey, to be ready for every good work, to slander no one, to avoid fighting, and to be kind, always showing gentleness to all people. For we too were once foolish, disobedient, deceived, enslaved by various passions and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, detesting one another.

But when the kindness of God our Savior and his love for mankind appeared, he saved us—not by works of righteousness that we had done, but according to his mercy—through the washing of regenerationand renewal by the Holy Spirit. He poured out his Spirit on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior so that, having been justified by his grace, we may become heirs with the hope of eternal life.This saying is trustworthy. I want you to insist on these things, so that those who have believed God might be careful to devote themselves to good works. These are good and profitable for everyone. But avoid foolish debates, genealogies, quarrels, and disputes about the law, because they are unprofitable and worthless. 10 Reject a divisive person after a first and second warning. 11 For you know that such a person has gone astray and is sinning; he is self-condemned. Titus 3:1-11

You don’t know the experiences that I’ve been through. If you don’t me very well then you don’t know much about me at all. You have no idea what experiences I have gone through. You don’t know the pain I have felt from my difficult life experiences. So please don’t make assumptions about other people.
When I mentioned that I needed time to write this and that I wanted to share my perspective I was met with the following:
“The time is not right for you to share your perspective, abuse victims don’t want to hear your perspective. The hash tag is a safe place for them to go. and they don’t need to hear you tell them about God’s wrath.”
How do they know what God can or can’t do through the proclamation of His Word and the gospel? I get that people like this care very much for abuse victims but people like this seem to have hardened their hearts against most 5 point calvinists. I believe the approach of only listening to victims is not helping them because the gospel, which is the only hope for any of us in this broken, fallen world is not preached. The comfort of Christ is not seen as the only and final source of hope for abuse victims. Christ brings comfort to us in our afflictions. Christ is the way, the truth, and the life and there is no way to God but to go through Him.

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